When the pressure hits, do you coach or take over?

There’s a version of you that shows up with calm.
That version listens deeply.
They ask sharp, spacious questions instead of jumping to fix things.

And when they show up?
Your team rises.

But there's another version too.
The one who’s stretched thin.
Who says, “Just let me do it” because it’s faster.
Whose value feels tied to having all the answers.

If you’ve ever felt the tug-of-war between coaching and managing — you’re not alone.

The Coaching vs. Managing Dilemma

Most of the leaders I work with live right on the edge of this internal conflict.

They believe in the power of coaching. They know it builds stronger team dynamics, more ownership, and real growth.

But when the pressure hits?
They revert to managing — stepping in, solving, holding the reins a little too tightly.

Not because they don’t trust their team — but because deep down, they feel responsible for everyone’s success. And failure.

Here’s the rub:
👉 Coaching requires giving space.
👉 Managing often means holding on tight.

This isn’t about right or wrong — it’s about recognising what your team really needs from you right now, and what’s driving your instinct to step in or step back.

The Shift Isn’t a Strategy — It’s a Mindset

The change comes when leaders stop treating coaching like a technique — something you switch on and off — and start seeing it as a mindset.

It’s not about asking “What’s your plan?” in the weekly check-in.
It’s about how you show up. The trust you build. The space you hold. The curiosity you carry.

It’s about awareness — of yourself and of the invisible motivators that shape how people behave, engage, and lead.

Why This Matters

When leaders shift into coaching mode - real coaching mode - teams notice.
Not because you’re giving them less… but because you’re trusting them more.

The conversations change.
So does the accountability.
So does the energy.

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If this tug-of-war sounds familiar, you're not alone. It's something I explore with leaders inside the Embolden program, where we take a close look at what drives people — and what gets in their way.

We use tools like PRINT profiling to make the invisible visible. And then we work on how to lead from that place — with more clarity, more confidence, and more trust.

Curious about what that could look like for your team?
Let’s connect BOOK A CALL — no pressure (it simply is not me!), just a conversation.